Declaring War to the Gods of Marketing

And Making Peace with the Goddess of Longevity

Do you also think these days that shiny marketing and numbers mean success? Not consciously of course, because we all know success can’t be measured in riches. But that vulnerable part of you that still keeps comparing itself?

Or do you feel frustrated at what seems a lack of integrity in successful people?

With success I mean money and visibility, booked out events, thought after presence and financially rewarding and recognised work.

On the personal level, I consider myself very successful, I am however a bit stunned by the stagnancy of external success. And I am not alone in this. I have literally just ended yet another conversation with a fellow creative and space holder about how our work after years of dedication and development is being received by not even half the amount of people we reached a two, three, even four years ago. Whilst others with more (or less) of our experience sky rocket because they’ve got marketing skills.

Maybe it is because we are the multi-passionate ones that don’t just follow one path and perfect it in every detail, but follow different trails, and therefore fail to become this one expert in this one field.

Maybe it is because the market changed.

Maybe it is because it is hard to stand out.

Maybe it is because of the algorithm.

And maybe, just maybe,

these are all excuses.

Don’t get me wrong, I am all for finding reasons, I certainly blame many myself.

Yet, I also know plenty of others who despite all those reasons thrive.
Who are into marketing and not. I know of those who don’t even have social media, hardly use their phone and never needed to design a flyer.

I have friends who are like me devoted to their inner work and service to others. Wonderful magical skillfull professionals who honour their expertise by showing up daily with their full heart, no matter if it is in their relationships, community gardens or inner work. I know people who are practicing what they preach. And still they don’t have the amount of clients they have space for or earn the money they could, either by playing small and giving it away so that everyone can benefit or by simply not being seen or known.

It’s the silent leaders in integrity that often get overlooked. The ones that don’t shout about themselves from the rooftops because they are too busy getting their hands dirty.

Yet, I also know plenty others that are noticed, that are booked out, that are financially abundant and in their integrity. I also know many successful people without an ambitious desire to work on themselves.

I know it is easy to come up with excuses to let yourself stop doing what you love.
I know it is easy to find reasons why you don’t succeed.
I know it is easy to tell everyone how hard it is.
And I know deep down,

the hard work is truly to step out of victimhood and own your life.

Do what needs to be done, sometimes external, sometimes internal.

I am done with complaining about marketing gurus and their unfair advantage. I either research into it and learn new skills, get advise from them.
Or find other solutions, like looking at the energetics, knowing that I don’t need to market myself in a way that it isn’t aligned with me - at least not for longterm success because I truly believe the current business model is going to crash. And I can show gratitude for those already seeing me, nurturing those connections and trusting in word of mouth.

I know my path forward lies in trust.

As a priestess I am tested in my devotion, and to be quite frank I have not passed the test yet.

Whatever self doubt or discomfort holds me back - by the way you don’t need to always know the whys, all too often that overanalysing is just another trick to keep you from changing! - it ends ups it with me self-sabotaging trough distraction. Be it unnecessarily checking my emails ten times even though I am not waiting for a specific message or doing low priority tasks.

I am grateful for being a mother, because it gets so much more obvious when you only have 4 hours to work and do your hobbies, and 2 of those nearly disappear as soon as you take your phone in your hands. It is sad but important to realise that after pondering all morning about what I will do once my son is napping and then not having done any of it as he wakes up. It’s a vulnerable thing to a admit, but thankfully it has become so blatantly obvious that I can’t ignore it any longer. And I assume many of you know this feeling, it must be a contemporary infectious disease.

So, let’s put our phone away and motivate each other to do something we care about: move our bodies, even to just one song. Write that vulnerable story, day dream or light a candle, tick of the highest priority on your list and reclaim your life!!

THE GODDESS IS LARGE AND IN CHARGE (as my friend Anita loves to say).
And it is time to connect with her.

In honouring of creation and decay.

Are you ready to find the energy that blocks your perceived success?

We dive deep together in the two weeks online Cacao Dieta to unearth that shadowy self saboteur and expand into our most powerful self:

I am looking forward to this Dieta every year, it is my most favourite way to work with Cacao, the transformations are profound. And I sure have my own shadows to integrate, which is just so much more delicious with a cup of ceremonial Cacao. Starts September 29th and you get plenty of information beforehand to be prepared and ready to not only make the a potent cup of Cacao but also know why ceremonial Cacao is so incredibly beneficial for shadow work - and the creative expansion that lies on the other side.